B104.8 - The BUT... |
The mind is not always our friend.
It is designed to assess and analyze, and it is hard as heck to get it to shut down for a break from time to time. As a result, after encounters with others, for many the mind lodges a BUT in with an experience. The BUT will delineate positive portions of an experience from negative portions. It is the duality dividing line necessary for feeling balance in a physical world built on duality.
When folks are asked by friends and family about a service that went well, or a product they bought, they generally might say something like "It was great. I liked it. She started on time and she did good work. Generally it was great BUT..." and then they will fill in a negative that they subconsciously feel they need to include to keep "something" in balance.
One way you know this is an innate system for many is because when the experience was bad, often times they will say "It sucked, he didn't pay any attention, BUT the office was nice"...
As a service provider or product provider, you can't prevent the BUT, BUT with a little strategy, you may be able to control it a little if that is of interest to you.
It is designed to assess and analyze, and it is hard as heck to get it to shut down for a break from time to time. As a result, after encounters with others, for many the mind lodges a BUT in with an experience. The BUT will delineate positive portions of an experience from negative portions. It is the duality dividing line necessary for feeling balance in a physical world built on duality.
When folks are asked by friends and family about a service that went well, or a product they bought, they generally might say something like "It was great. I liked it. She started on time and she did good work. Generally it was great BUT..." and then they will fill in a negative that they subconsciously feel they need to include to keep "something" in balance.
One way you know this is an innate system for many is because when the experience was bad, often times they will say "It sucked, he didn't pay any attention, BUT the office was nice"...
As a service provider or product provider, you can't prevent the BUT, BUT with a little strategy, you may be able to control it a little if that is of interest to you.
- Sometimes planting a small negative that isn't really a huge negative is enough to fill the void the mind needs to feel like it's in balance, and maybe you can consciously control that.
- This is kind of what the media does when it wants to control the narrative about someone.
- If they want to present a negative person as a positive, they will present positive stuff and negative stuff, but they will hand pick the negative in a manner that fills the void and draws attention away from the negative that is the white elephant that everyone should care about.
The BUT from a consumer perspective...
There are some people who claim they don't do this. There are others who consciously work to suppress it. From observation, it seems it is a natural part of being present in the physical realm with a mind that was meant to assist you. Realizing you are not your mind nor the negative thoughts it conjures is key to identifying this without judging ones self.
To suppress this mechanism or ignore it is the only part that is out of balance, or so it would seem.
If you don't like this mechanism, one solution to working with it is to allow the mechanism to function, but then upon sharing your experience, prevent the tongue from spitting out the BUT balancer unless asked, or unless it is truly relevant to the conversation. Putting that final filter on at the tongue level at least makes one conscious of the nature of the mind regularly, if nothing else.
The people who don't acknowledge this mechanism or who suppress this are the ones who are really laid back for months or years until they erupt like a volcano over the straw the broke the camels back.
To suppress this mechanism or ignore it is the only part that is out of balance, or so it would seem.
If you don't like this mechanism, one solution to working with it is to allow the mechanism to function, but then upon sharing your experience, prevent the tongue from spitting out the BUT balancer unless asked, or unless it is truly relevant to the conversation. Putting that final filter on at the tongue level at least makes one conscious of the nature of the mind regularly, if nothing else.
The people who don't acknowledge this mechanism or who suppress this are the ones who are really laid back for months or years until they erupt like a volcano over the straw the broke the camels back.